the other day, two friends and i were chatting about another woman who was not present. this is called gossipping.
i don't really feel badly because i wasn't contributing much. i don't even know this lady. and while it's not beyond my talents to enthusiastically chime in and fabricate something pretty sinister and memorable about her? i was uninspired that morning. not even a "...and what's up with her skeevy husband?"
i blame my caffeine and sugar and alcohol detox.
but here's my point, if you can call it that: one of my friends said "she doesn't get along with her family. and she's one of, like, seven kids. doesn't speak to them. at. all. not even her parents. ever. not. ever."
all those full-stops were in my imagination, i'm sure.
her point was that if you don't like your family, chances are you don't like yourself very much. and that that's a bad seed in any growing friendship.
i wouldn't know. i love my family, and you know i had a really idyllic childhood. it was a lot like that line in a weepies song: when i was a child, everybody smiled...
but i wonder about that. whether someone who has such a disconnect from where they started can be a friend until the end?
in my own experience, my favorite friends through thick and thin all love their families. through thick and thin. and the ones who've been the biggest nightmares? sort of don't speak to their families. like, ever.
did i tell you we went back to illinois last week? our families' homes in illinois are really as close to a home as uncle sugar and i have, wanderlusters that we are.
anyway. for the first time since my oldest sister died, i felt like i could breathe. sitting and giggling with my family, i missed her. of course i missed her. but i could breathe.
and i think all that extra oxygen was coming from my family.
i'd hate to not have that. i'd hate if you didn't have that.
loving this artist called parn. be sure to read the genius descriptions he's written for every one of his genius prints. and i'd love to hear your thoughts on the whole love your family, love yourself, love your friends deal. also, xoxo.