tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post2403819209068446349..comments2023-10-31T09:45:22.775-04:00Comments on mackin ink: wondering...karey m.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17431535677698029278noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-30602141434170796132010-06-04T06:06:18.145-04:002010-06-04T06:06:18.145-04:00[url=http://scjohnson.ca/forums/members/Legal-Help...[url=http://scjohnson.ca/forums/members/Legal-Help-Totaled-Car-No-Insurance/default.aspx]Legal Help Totaled Car No Insurance[/url] [url=http://forums.thedailywtf.com/members/Auto-Insurance-Quotes-In-Ontario.aspx]Search Low Car Insurance[/url] [url=http://village.homefriday.com.au/members/Car-Insurance-For-Offenders.aspx]Uk In Car Online Insurance[/url] [url=http://dixbot.com/members/Stolen-Car-Insurance-Information.aspx]Car Insurance Directory In London[/url] [url=http://ms-start.ru/members/Page-About-Car-Insurance-Company-Ireland.aspx]Wachovia Auto Insurance[/url]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-81838632577101374232010-05-16T07:14:51.582-04:002010-05-16T07:14:51.582-04:00[url=http://www.kjuaguttene.no/Members/laverngrove...[url=http://www.kjuaguttene.no/Members/laverngrove/arizona-car-insurance-online/]Toyota Car Auto Insurance Quote[/url] [url=http://migale.jouy.inra.fr/biogtw/Members/cathiwhite/car-insurance-no-claims-bonus-explained]Uk Car Insurance Quote Search[/url] [url=http://www.openvote.net/Members/franksnyder/auto-in-insurance-quote-texas/]Instant Car Insurance Quotess[/url] [url=http://zope.eenet.ee/tpl/Members/tabithaposey/how-to-get-low-car-insurance/]London Safeco Car Insurance[/url] [url=http://www.grupocoraldelagos.com/Members/mohammadhouser/car-insurance-to-cross-canadian-border/]Allstate Texas Auto Insurance[/url]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-22371218005044588212010-05-08T22:57:08.496-04:002010-05-08T22:57:08.496-04:00[url=http://community.croydoncamogieclub.com/_Onli...[url=http://community.croydoncamogieclub.com/_Online-Teaching-Degree-Massachusetts/photo/9191770/36900.html]Online Lpn Training Courses[/url] [url=http://gamersblog.guinnessworldrecords.com/_Free-Online-Christian-Counselling-Courses/photo/9196440/4121.html]Online College Loans[/url] [url=http://my.ktvu.com/_Obstacles-For-Online-Charter-Schools/photo/9196794/6704.html]Online Education Comparison[/url] [url=http://community.wreg.com/_Digital-Photography-Online-Free-Classes/photo/9195800/96304.html]Burlington County College Online Registration[/url] [url=http://community2.myfoxmemphis.com/_Online-Degree-In-Secondary-Education/photo/9194487/80520.html]Queen S University Online Courses[/url]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-29072573920861159392010-05-08T01:12:24.173-04:002010-05-08T01:12:24.173-04:00feminism gave us a lot of good. we can now have e...feminism gave us a lot of good. we can now have everything if we want to. but i think it sort of made us feel like we SHOULD have everything. kids, career, creativity...all at once. but maybe life just has seasons. by staying home now, i get to do my mothering job really well (not that working moms aren't good at mothering...i'm just saying i like to focus). and when my kids are older, i can do another job really well. i'm a one-thing-at-a-time type person.annie (the annilygreen one)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06484522842275619843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-88001934241808913792010-05-07T11:29:40.594-04:002010-05-07T11:29:40.594-04:00this is my first time to your blog and i'm imm...this is my first time to your blog and i'm immediately leaving a comment...that never happens! i stay at home and sometimes worry about being "prepared" but then i remember that this is my life right now and i can not plan for everything. when i try it makes me CRAZY. if something big happens to change our lives i have no doubt that i will pull it together to take care of my boys. i suspect you would too. you should have friends who believe in you. and why isn't this friend worried about fathers being prepared to care for kids if the mother were out of the picture? being a stay at home mom does not have to equal helplessness. whew...i feel better. :)Asher Sevelandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10694447268412710447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-61376820149749502612010-05-04T22:08:11.745-04:002010-05-04T22:08:11.745-04:00Karey,
I have so loved the very thoughtful answe...Karey, <br /><br />I have so loved the very thoughtful answers to your questions. Here are my answers: <br /><br />I work, and I've never stayed home. My daughter is eight. I'm a teacher, so I guess I actually stay home three months a year. That's really enough for me. By the time summer is ending, we are all chomping at the bit to get back to our "normal" lives. I think I am not enough of a self-starter to stay at home full time. I am a girl who needs a deadline. <br /><br />Being a teacher, I am able to share my work life with my daughter in a way most women can't. I do treasure that. I can't even tell you how much. <br /><br />And, yes, I could take over supporting the family. Of course, things would be tight on one teacher's salary, but I could manage it. I don't know that it gives me comfort, though. I've always been able to support myself and assumed I would be able to take care of my child if I had to. It's not that it doesn't matter, just that I never considered another option. <br /><br />The option being to be able to support myself, I mean. I have considered staying home. It's just not for me. I am called to teach. It is my passion and my purpose, second only to my child. I do love it!Relyn Lawsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01389583730002062714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-28323034321924215122010-05-04T11:13:32.802-04:002010-05-04T11:13:32.802-04:00i've missed coming over here and reading. i ha...i've missed coming over here and reading. i have been out of the day to day blogger stuff for a while. glad to have read your past few posts again, though!<br />i am not at the point to be making any babies right now, but if i get the chance to, i'm not sure what i'd prefer. i know that i want to teach art. i know that i'll be obsessed with my little bundle as well, though. i like the lil bee's situation... i'd like to find a way to work at home.<br />hmm... we'll see.<br />hope you have a lovely week!<br />:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-64288036277963630022010-05-03T09:39:34.933-04:002010-05-03T09:39:34.933-04:00First of all, we are so similar sometimes it scare...First of all, we are so similar sometimes it scares me. Second, you are already supporting your family in the biggest way possible. Third, I think you should reconsider that friend. And fourth, you have so many skills in so many things (writing, painting, making everyone around you feel like the most important person ever), that anyone in any company would be foolish not to hire you in a split second (heavens forbid).<br /><br />Personally, I chose a hybrid of working and staying at home. I work from home and watch Devon simultaneously. It's not a foolproof method, and it definitely takes constant adjusting and flexibility (two things I've had to learn over these last six months), but I wouldn't have it any other way. We have at least three made up songs for her and I just can't imagine them being sung by anyone else but me:)deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12271310136010979584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-9217420309132171902010-04-30T11:46:49.372-04:002010-04-30T11:46:49.372-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Kim in the Covehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15227843473357320611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-7706346542412339482010-04-30T11:46:48.526-04:002010-04-30T11:46:48.526-04:00karey - this is a great discussion!
i agree with...karey - this is a great discussion! <br /><br />i agree with your friend that an important component of being a good parent is being a prepared parent. i've gotten just old enough to see that life sometimes throws us unpleasant surprises. dads AND moms need life insurance, sure, but we also need a PLAN. what a blessing to be a stay-at-home-parent!!! all i am saying is there should always be a mechanism by which mom OR dad can support the family solo - truly solo. sometimes it's not divorce or death but illness or disability that removes a parent from their role as parent or provider or both. it's not worth dwelling on, but it's worth a discussion and at least the outline of a plan. anything less is a bit like riding around without seatbelts "hoping for the very best". right?Kim in the Covehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15227843473357320611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-49747355531008942742010-04-29T16:18:51.815-04:002010-04-29T16:18:51.815-04:00I am surrounded by women that have put off college...I am surrounded by women that have put off college and work experience to have children. That is their choice and I respect that. But I do have to agree with your friend. Every mother has to prepare herself for a time when she maybe the sole provider for her children. I am grateful that I did get a college degree and did work before the birth of my son. Like you I thought I would always work, even if just part time. Although I had the luxury of leaving my child with my mother while I pursued my career goals. I simply could not do it. It broke my heart to think I might miss his first smile, his first laugh, his first steps. Because of my time away from work, I'm afraid it would be difficult to return and find the success I once had after a long absence. I have recently been thinking about taking some courses that would take me in a very different direction. It would be more for self-fulfillment than anything else. But I would be gaining marketable skills from these courses. I have been putting this off because I keep telling myself that this desire is selfish. With a husband that works long hours, a toddler, and another child on the way, it is wrong to want this for myself. Because of your words I have been reminded that this will also be for the good of my family as well. I've decided to take the plunge. I pray to God I will never have to use these talents to put food on the table for my children. But I also pray that if that day comes, I will be able to use what gifts and knowledge I have to do so.Ashleyhttp://wheresouthmeetswest.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-62130309588436357122010-04-29T13:39:40.168-04:002010-04-29T13:39:40.168-04:00precisely why I'm covered too... my guy would ...precisely why I'm covered too... my guy would be up a creek if that bus ever comes careening my way!c.beannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-47045240023403644582010-04-29T12:21:49.804-04:002010-04-29T12:21:49.804-04:00I'm a big believer in being able to support yo...I'm a big believer in being able to support yourself should the need arise... especially because life just isn't a forgone conclusion. Too many people in my community decide they are going to be a SAHM, so they don't see the need to pick a field that they could and WOULD work in. Life doesn't always work out the way you planned.<br /><br />I do think it is interesting that we have a HUGE insurance policy on my husband, but nothing on me. He'd be toast if he ever had to worry about childcare.TX Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05903513836524372099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-89375143094623800272010-04-29T11:58:35.367-04:002010-04-29T11:58:35.367-04:00Someone sent this article to me a few days ago:
...Someone sent this article to me a few days ago:<br /> http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/wayoflife/04/13/mommy.mafia.jen.klein/index.html<br /><br />seems to fit in with the conversation going on here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-59154750943600903212010-04-29T11:18:26.628-04:002010-04-29T11:18:26.628-04:00My husband made it a huge priority that I get my b...My husband made it a huge priority that I get my bachelor's, and I did it in Physics so I could get an actual job if he ever died or couldn't get a job, but my plan was to always stay home.<br /><br />I read an article here: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Elizabeth-Gilbert-on-Failure-and-Living-Well/1 That was talked about on the Elements of Style blog, and I really liked it, except all the women she was talking about had these great "side" careers, which I absolutely do not. I have a gargantuanly spectacular 15 month old who I could spend all my days tickling, and have an etsy shop which I am increasingly realizing I canNOT sew... I dunno--I feel like I've been having a quarter-life-crisis lately to understand what I'm supposed to be doing.<br /><br />Thanks for the post.<br /><br />mommaginger.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11128261845613351208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-71638869143823898122010-04-29T09:40:57.856-04:002010-04-29T09:40:57.856-04:00I'm pro-choice when it comes to this topic. wh...I'm pro-choice when it comes to this topic. whatever works for each family is best. no judgement.<br /><br />I admit that I never gave it much thought before I found myself at the crossroads... but when my maternity leave was up, I just couldn't go back. <br /><br />I do suffer from the occasional bout of did i do the right thing... but most of the time I feel good about being the Director of Development for My Family Project.<br /><br />I realize that I am very lucky to live in a time and place where I do have a choice. I am grateful to be able to afford the luxury/challenge of staying home to do the work of raising three amazing girls. <br /><br />but if that bus comes crashing into my world... I'll do whatever needs to be done. of course. just because I choose to stay home and grow people doesn't mean I'm weak or incapable or unemployable! plus, I insisted on a hefty insurance policy when this whole parenting thing started.c.beannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-555302952125600672010-04-29T08:36:02.199-04:002010-04-29T08:36:02.199-04:00Hi Karey - I don't know you that well but this...Hi Karey - I don't know you that well but this post made such an impression on me - your writing was exquisite, so I left you a little Beautiful Blogger award on my blog. Only for if you have time... LB xLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13457538074763854583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-30288673759089159452010-04-29T08:17:14.500-04:002010-04-29T08:17:14.500-04:00if you all don't think i've been reading a...if you all don't think i've been reading and re-reading and reading again each of your comments, you're flat out mistaken.<br /><br />these are like gold to me. even though i hate gold. you know what i'm saying...<br /><br />and kate? i love that your parents rhymed with you. nicest thing to read this morning, for sure. <br /><br />xoxo, all.karey m.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17431535677698029278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-16032171956934082652010-04-29T00:35:46.659-04:002010-04-29T00:35:46.659-04:00I love your blog. Even though I'm not at this...I love your blog. Even though I'm not at this stage in my life right now, I can totally relate to your situation because you write so honestly. I've seen many bloggers write about this issue, but I think you've put it really eloquently in this post.<br /><br />Also, my name is Kate and my parents used to rhyme my name with skate too : )Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12618987087522956540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-34971311356547139562010-04-28T23:36:28.680-04:002010-04-28T23:36:28.680-04:00karey m., i love this. i love all of your posts, r...karey m., i love this. i love all of your posts, really. i've been reading for awhile and never commented, though i've thought about it. today's the day, i suppose.<br /><br />i'm not a mom (yet) but i have often thought about what i would do in this situation. it's such a difficult one and i think we all must make our own decision. so, really, i'm of little help. <br /><br />but, i must let you know (because I could feel the uncertainty in your words today): my mama stayed home with me and the 3 that followed right up until the smallest was in middle school. and, well, if you ask any of us - that meant more in our eyes than anything else she's ever done.spelled with an h.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15146492823001095367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-58761449108110969472010-04-28T22:38:32.145-04:002010-04-28T22:38:32.145-04:00My husband's cousin lost her husband today. He...My husband's cousin lost her husband today. He went out running and just fell over dead. I do not know what she is going to do, if she has plans in case of this - she has 2 little girls. That coupled with your question made me think. I also have two children and work as little as possible, doing odd jobs, gigs whatever you want to call them in the time that doesn't take away from my two beautiful children, earning enough money to help get by. But what if the husband left and didn't come back could I support my family? Sure, I think you could too. When that sort of thing happens you do what you have to do, in my case even waiting tables or answering phones - again. I think that by giving your daughter yourself you are making the best investment possible, and if something unexpectedly horrible happens then that will take care of itself too.Hollyhttp://hollyspinner.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-59408685790307849862010-04-28T22:22:05.698-04:002010-04-28T22:22:05.698-04:00Those perennial worries, always ready to surface.....Those perennial worries, always ready to surface...mine were so long ago that I rarely think about them, unless someone in my world (real or imaginary!) is struggling with them.<br /><br />I just erased a big long drawn-out response, but this is really enough: as long as what you're doing is right for you and yours, you're doing it right. And I'd bet on you any day, karey m.<br /><br />xox,<br />susansusan said sohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17427481695202748942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-26860512460138357062010-04-28T17:24:08.419-04:002010-04-28T17:24:08.419-04:00In a past life I was on a path to my ultimate drea...In a past life I was on a path to my ultimate dream...halfway through college and taking lovely steps towards becoming a marine biologist with fantasies of traveling the world discovering the last great discoveries in the deep unknown. <br /><br />Then I met a boy. Fell madly in love. Moved away from all I knew and had known. <br /><br />Then came a excitable puppy named Bear.<br /><br />Then came my beautiful daughter Elena.<br /><br />I may not have the crisis solutions neatly and precisely mapped out, but I do have faith that in such an event, I'd be able to support my family no matter what because I'm not afraid of hard work and the love I have for all of them would drive me to accomplish anything I needed to. I might not like the unknown, but I'm not afraid of it. <br /><br />However, this post does make me think. I love that. <br /><br />Thank you. :]release.refresh.renewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05553506102099496147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-19187733106275288992010-04-28T17:14:08.857-04:002010-04-28T17:14:08.857-04:00Did you write this for me today? I think you did....Did you write this for me today? I think you did. This has been my year long question. My first few posts were based on this. I've stayed home for 15 years! Felt sorry for my friends who worked p/t while I was home with my sweet peas all day long. <br /><br />Now with my youngest being 10, I'm ready to go back to work doing something. But GASP! I have no experience. My friends are dealing with the same thing. We have 10 years of major volunteer work in the PTO...but other than that we've played tennis, lunched and shopped for shoes. <br /><br />What's a Mother to do? The economy stinks to open a cutsie store. Most of my friends are working p/t at pilates studios, clothing stores..or such. I need more brain power than that, so I'm searching, taking classes...basically trying to figure out what I want to do when I grow up. It's a hard thing to figure out. I've often thought I should write a book just on this subject. <br /><br />I could not at all support my children if something happened, but I would call upon all forces of the Universe and figure out something. Maybe it would force me to write that great novel :)<br /><br />You, sweet Karey, would have people knocking down your door with your talents. You just seem to have a lot of them. <br /><br />Sometimes I think about how far I could have gone in my field had I stayed working...but then I would have missed out on all the fun of raising such great people. And I do feel like they've been my greatest achievement thus far. Way better than any paycheck.meezohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05033167037646341394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-472812438595483786.post-62867325134379012302010-04-28T17:01:15.496-04:002010-04-28T17:01:15.496-04:00karey,
It seems to me you DO do it all ~ and you w...karey,<br />It seems to me you DO do it all ~ and you would definitely take care of your family if you HAD too. <br /><br />McDreamy and I never planned to have kids, and the crumb made it pass the 'goalie', so the perfect duo became a traveling trio. Best 'mistake' we ever made, and never in my life did I plan to be a SAHM. But then those big blue eyes melted my heart the moment they put her on my chest, and I knew I would refuse to miss one day of her life. She and I go hand-in-hand 24/7, and I'm not going to leave her with a 'dullard' nanny who can be overjoyed by her total perfection. The first 5 years of being her best friend will definitely be rewarded with a life-long bond of forever goodness. So I became creative and did what I had to do ~ let my creative juices and need to 'add to the nest egg' move forward and open an online boutique, bake organic cakes, teach yoga, and write ~ all of which I do with the crumb by my side or while she sleeps at night. My 'workday' begins at 8PM, but my heart is on-call every day for the rest of my life now that it has been filled with the most intense love I never knew existed. <br /><br />And one day, I hope we don't have to wish for "a company out there who loves shiny concepts, an everything's possible outlook, and ebullient writing" ~ I relish in the reverie of knowing they will be the core of Fortune 500!<br /><br />~MelissaSimply Mel {Reverie}https://www.blogger.com/profile/15881462293605864150noreply@blogger.com